The web site was created and went
live on January 1, 2001. Since that time, we have added things here and there as time
allows and now, some months later, the site and it's various pages can be found on
several web searches. Accordingly, the number of hits by various different kinds of
"seekers" continues to grow each week. That means there is no telling what kind
of comments we might get about the site's contents. Below is a sample of some comments
shared with us. Check back every now and then to read more or, better yet, SUBMIT your own
and see if you make the "cut."
Ms. Wade writes, "I am truly so thankful for this [Kissing]
article! My husband and I have 4 daughters and have recently come to the
conclusion that the "World's ways" of finding a spouse, should
not be our way. We are trying to instill in them these same values.I
grew up as a pastor's daughter and my parents never thought twice about
me dating, kissing, etc.... I brought a lot of baggage into my marriage
that still haunts me and I don't want that for my children. I also
wanted to metnion another verse that I have discovered on this topic,
that I didn't see listed in your article. The one in Timothy where PAul
is instructing him to "Flee Youthful Lusts...." Keep up the
Rebecca writes, "Hey,
I really liked your article on Premarital
kissing. You did a GREAT job
of explaining it, and it simply confirmed what God has recently shown me
as a single person. As a former premarital kisser, I totally agree that
it starts a fire. As a Christian relative told me, '' When you start
kissing, you have to stop ( if you don't want to go all the way ) and we
weren't MADE to stop.) Therefore, it's best not to even start in the
first place. I have recently made a decision not to kiss before
marriage, after much prayer. It is helping to eliminate un-neccesary
frustration and get to know the person much better, free from physical
distraction. God Bless !"
Tom from Burlington North Carolina writes, "My wife and I
read your article "Waging
the war for sexual purity". We couldn't agree more with
your writing. It is very encouraging to see that others stand for
the TRUTH and will even write about it! We applaud your efforts
and encourage you to continue to "contend for the faith once
delivered to the saints". May the Lord richly bless you
according to his riches in grace and mercy.
We are really thankful to have run across your articles.
They are a great encouragement to our family as we struggle to swim
against the tide. At the same time, we are thankful to have the freedom
to make the choices that we are making, including attending public
worship services of our choosing, and homeschooling our children. We are
also uplifted because we think we see a revival of families going back
to the old paths such as we read in Jeremiah 6:16. It is important for
us to band together, pray for one another, pray for our country, and
encourage others to seek ye out the old paths and walk therein. Thank
you for all that you do to contribute to that cause."
Jessica from McKinney, TX writes: "I found
your site by doing a Google search on Biblical betrothal etc... In my
search I found your article on
Kissing... I totally agree! When I read
that you haven't had many positive responses to the Biblica, godly view
of saving that part of physical affection for ones spouse it kind of
shocked me! Well, be encourged, and please keep getting the Word
out!" Thank you Jessica. You're
right about the responses. For example,
Dave from the United Kingdom writes:
"I have to say I was very disappointed to come across this website
that offers bizarre and confusing advice to people in pre-marital
relationships. For a start, the Southern Baptist church quote was
extremely poorly paraphrashed - they did not say that sexual activity is
ok. I am a bible-believing, born-again Christian in a solid
relationship with a wonderful girl, and whilst we know that temptation
is so close, we are happy to blessed with common sense, and the guidance
of God's word. I have kissed her and will continue to do so -
however, I will assure that our kisses are not overzealous or
Shari from Colorado writes, "Thank
you, thank you, thank you! Wow, what a great website and one that
is much needed! We are Colorado home schoolers with 11 children,
and saw you site address in the ad for the GLorieta camp. Though
we will be unable to attend, thought I would check your site out.
Thanks so much for being a voice for truth in our hurting nation.
Thanks for validating a stay-at-home mom and a dad that puts the Lord,
then family, then work in the right priority. Will visit your site
Karola from California says, "I read your article about
premarital kissing and I absolutely agree with your concepts. I wish
more young women and men would be aware of the sexual nature of kissing
and that they would be wise enough to refrain from it until marriage,
EVEN IF IT DOESN'T LEAD TO THE COMPLETE ACT. Young women, you don't know
what you lose when you allow a man to teach you how to kiss before
marriage. Let your husband be the one to teach you and keep as much as
possible for him, no matter if people tell you that it's OK to do
otherwise. If you want to keep yourself pure, don't even kiss intimately
before marriage, because later you will realize that you lost something
that only your husband should have and that only he should open up for
the first time in your life."
Alex just doesn't get it: "I extremely doubt that in today's
life people wait after marriage to kiss someone. I mean what more must
they ask? Don't have sex until marriage and then they say DON'T KISS? I
mean I believe in sex after marriage but I don't quite understand the
whole reasoning on why not to kiss. And they say DO WHAT YOU PREACH so
are you going to tell me that you've never kissed anyone until you got
But then Anna writes:
"I really enjoyed reading the articles on your site. My
husband and I waited to kiss until our wedding day to kiss (my first
lifetime kiss!!), and we are soooo thankful we did. It is great to
see we aren't alone.
I also enjoyed reading the article and comments about Tatoos. My
husband has some tatoos (which he is NOT proud of) that he got before he
was Christian. I think that people today don't think about the
permanance of tatoos. Maybe when you are 16 it is cool, but when
you are 30 and a pastor (like my husband) you may have a diffrent
oppinion. You never know where God is going to take you! Thankfully
there is forgiveness in the cross, and God can do MIRACLES. But
should we continue to sin so that grace may abound? I argree with
the Apostle Paul: Certainly not!"
I think Eric has the answer for Alex: "I totally agree with
what you are saying. I wish someone had told me all this at an early
age. It's just so difficult to explain all this to someone nowadays.
Hopefully I will be one to explain all this to my children even if I
Informative site. Great to know that u can actually get good biblical
advice. i have a question. hope u can help me. i'm a christian and so is my
boyfriend. our relationship with God is the most important thing to each
of us. we realize that we need to put God first in our relationship at
all times. we have decided that we won't kiss until we get to the alter
and we are relying on God's strength to stick to this decision. we are
wondering though, is there anything like a peck on the lips (as in no
parting of the lips, just lips touching. similar to what u would do on a
person's cheek, except on a closed lip). would that qualify as a holy
kiss. or is that lust.
Thank you for writing and for your question.
I don't think one can make blanket rules and try to apply them across
the board to everyone. What if the lips suddenly come unparted
accidentally or just how unparted should they be, etc? It is a
heart matter and a matter of your own conscious as to how God is
leading you and your boyfriend. Personally though, I don't think
there is anything wrong with a greeting or parting kiss that includes
a peck on the lips between two people who are committed and capable of
Mrs. Jennifer Puumala writes: "I was encouraged by your
article on educating to
the glory of God. Your other articles on piety taught at home
and internet schooling were thought provoking. Thanks for caring."
Larisa from Jacksonville, FL writes: "Thank you for standing up
for the truth of God's Word... as unpopular as that is! I was encouraged
and challenged by this article [Sexual
Purity], particularly regarding the call to instruct my son
concerning purity so that he might have this qualification as a future
leader in the church. This is something we already strive for in the
training of both our son and daughters, but it has been impressed upon
me in a deeper way through your article due to the vision we have for
our son in the kingdom of God. God bless you"
Will from Indianapolis writes,
appreciated your article on pre-marital kissing, and I would like to
offer some more thoughts (especially from the male perspective): kissing
is absolutely no different from any other thing you do in relation with
the opposite sex; it's all a matter of the heart. Many guys
(including myself once upon a time) can't even touch a girl's hand
without being inflamed with lust. Others have no problem holding
her by the waist with 100% pure, loving, respecting, and protecting
motives. So the question is this: is it possible for you to kiss
without being inflamed with lust? Only you know the answer to that
question for yourself. If you're not sure if you can, then DON'T
DO IT! Especially in your teens, when your hormones are raging and
you're still discovering yourself. If there is a kind of kissing
that you are able to do with 100% pure godly motives, then by all means
it is ok (that is, of course, if the one you're kissing has a 100% pure
heart too. If it's not a sexual temptation for you but is for her, then it's just as
But I was wondering, what about the "emotional arousal"
factor, which girls supposedly experience? I'm not a girl, so I
don't know if their experience of sexual arousal/lust is the same as us
For example, let's just talk about a quick, loving peck of greetings on
the lips. Let's say that I am able to do it with totally pure (non
sexual/lustful) motives; but how can I know whether I'm tempting her
(the one I'm kissing)? Do girls get that same physical/chemical
"high" that guys get from lustful sexual gratification, or is
it emotional? I would really like an honest answer from some
females: is it possible for you to be kissed by a godly man without
being sexually tempted? Do you experience a physical/chemical
pleasure from sinful gratification, or is it just emotionally impure?
Jamie writes, "I am a married, church-going, Christian
professional woman who, in spite of my advanced degrees, plans on making
child-rearing the primary work of my life. My secondary work is to
put my God-given talents and degrees to use by helping others who are
less fortunate then my husband and I. I think that I am extremely
blessed to even be able to contemplate this sort of lifestyle.
Unfortunately, there are many others that disagree.
There is a disheartening trend in this website and many of its ilk to
play 'blame the feminist' in any discussion of society's ills. I
was pleased to see that you have renounced the most extreme of such
woman-haters in articles like your "Bathsheba" response.
However, the term feminist is still invoked throughout your website as a
shorthand for everything that is wrong with the world. Before we
completely discount feminism and feminists, we need to remember how bad
things REALLY WERE for women. For example, before the courageous
acts of feminists, women like the author of Modesty Revisited (reviewed
on this site) could never have gone to college, written and published a
book on their own, or kept the proceeds from the book's sales. If
she had written a political/intellectual book behind her
husband/father's back, she could have been beaten severly without any
recourse to law. Even after women were granted property and voting
rights, many studies have shown that the intellectual stagnation of the
forced solitude endured by many 1950's era housewives led to serious
mental illness and substance abuse problems.
Unfortunately, there are many others who disagree with my choice to make
my life's work raising children and helping other children. From
the left, I get criticized for 'wasting' my degrees on 'only' raising
and helping children for free. Why go to school if you're not
going to make money? The only conceivable reason they can come up
with is that I wanted to 'catch a husband.'
So I turn to my fellow Christians for solace and support- and all too
often find apparent antagonism and misogony. I still can find the
solace I'm looking for, but it requires a bit of keeping my mouth shut
at Church and reading between the lines. I'm convinced that this
is not the response God wants from me, SO I am writing to ask you and
your readers to embrace TRUE feminism and help uplift women
world-wide. First, before Christians reject feminists out-of-hand,
we need to remember how bad things were before feminism (answer- really
bad. See prior post). Given this history of male domination,
it is only natural that most historically aware women get nervous when
the word submission is discussed. Instead of letting ourselves get
caught up in the rhetoric and accusations of sin, we need to remember
that Feminism is, or is supposed to be, a doctrine of allowing women the
opportunity to follow God's spirit where it leads us. Surely no
Christian can be against that.
As the people of God, it is therefore up to us to reach out the loving
hand of God to feminists and explain that we have far more common ground
then we thought. This doesn't require adopting moral
relativism. It merely means understanding other viewpoints a bit
Michelle writes, "wow. that [Kissing
Article] was great. peer pressure is tough stuff. i now know where
the lines are. things like this are not normally talked about at our
church becuase it is too deep for some teenagers to understand or they
are more focused in bringing more to Christ. I do wonder why you have it
as a homeschool website in one of your articles. Is it to say that home
schooling is the way to go? If it is then who will set the example in
Leslie from Monaca, Pennsylvaina writes, "WOW! This [kissing]
article was excellent! I had taken a vow a few months ago to not kiss
until marriage and this only cemented my beliefs! Thanks so much for
making this article!"
Erina from Allentown, Pennsylvania writes, "I consider
myself a very religious person. I put an emeense amount of trust in god
and his beliefs. However, after reading your articles I cannot
help but feel extremely angry. You rant on and on about "no
kissing" before marriage. Are you in denial? Kissing is the
least of the sins being commited. So, i must ask, what do you
suggest to someone that doesn't get married at the age of 18? What
happens if you dont meet your soul mate until the age of 35?
What do you have to say for the priests and so called "positive
role models" that NOT ONLY LUST, but lust after innoccent children?
The men who rape young girls and women? The men that destroy womens
LIVES to just get a little action. How do you think God feels
You have a young girl who enjoys kissing her boyfriend and the
adult man that likes to force himself on young girls. Who will God
coniser to have the most sin? Do you consider them both sinners?
Maybe you should start lecturing about how WRONG RAPE, molestation, and
Yes, we are god's creatures, but we do have control over our lives and
decisions. Times have changed and these changes cannot be assumed to be
always bad. After all, god created the movement of time and change,
I would really appreciate a response, if that is at all possible. This
isn't a complete bashing against your beliefs. Even though i hardly
agree with them. I believe in learning other peoples points of
view and how they percieve them.
Daniel from Vancouver, BC writes, "I read the article
with interest, considering the fact that I as a Christian man have four
earrings and a tattoo. I realize there is a whole subculture with tattooing and piercing with pain as its focus, but to
every Christian who has multiple piercings or tattoos into that subgroup
short sighted. People get tattoos for many different reasons, some bad,
some good. For instance you could compare the BM community to
the church. There are many different denominations within the church and
some are far out and cultish. So would you condemn all Christians based
what some crazy JW's were doing. The same goes for people with BM's. If
judge everybody with a tattoo or piercing by what some whackos do with
their bodies and why they do it then that is a very limited
view." There may be many reasons for
getting a tattoo, but there is only one valid reason a Christian should
get a tattoo - if God's word so instructs him to do so.
Heather is in California and writes, "Whoa.. Your article
came across my path at the right time! I am currently in a
relationship with someone and the question about kissing was brought up last week. We both are striving to live a life pure and
for christ. He asked if I felt it was okay to kiss. I told
him I didn't know and wanted to talk to God. I did, told God how I
felt and he didnt answer back. The question keeps coming up about
kissing. The urge to kiss each other comes up every once in a
while. I decided on saying okay to kissing.. but after reading this article I am going to look at my answer
again. Thank you for saving me from making a decision that would
possibly destroy our purities. Thank you."
Eric from Taylors, SC writes, "I am a newly married man,
with a pregnant wife, so I feel that it would be an understatement to
say that I am concerned family
matters. Ashamedly, I must admit that my concern for "family
not always been as stong as it is today. Yet, the Lord has used His
godly men and women, and websites such as this one to grow my passion
the family. Thank you for the thoughtful articles on this site. Please
for me and my family as we leave a legacy for the following generations
as we influence the society around us."
Joey added, "Excellent essay on this topic! I'm not
the type that usually
reads whole web pages, but this one I did. I'm seeking Christian
in knowing where to set my physical boundaries with my new girlfriend,
this page has really helped."
Sam from Texas writes,
"I recently read the ranted article about tattoos and body
piercing. I understand the Bible and also undertand the the Old
Covenant and New Covenant come into play when choosing a side that has
no bearing on what the whole Bible says instead of just taking
scriptures that fit their way of thinking. Several times the bible
mentions a form of marking as a normal practice in the time that the
writers were. It's seen as common and as something that is not
forbidden like the article states. If your going to follow the
whole Old Covenant the you can't eat certain things and you must leave
you wife outside your "camp" when she is unclean or on her
period. To have such a narrow view on things is hard to undertand.
I even saw your comment about how we shouldn't compare this to Paul
writing in Galatians 6:17. Translated the word "mark"
was used as to say stigma which means to poke, or brand. He was
literally saying that the beatings represented his stigma that he
belonged to his master. So relating that to
our world today, normally a Christian isn't going to be beaten to have
to apply this message to their lives. If someone wants to take
this literally then why not have a mark poked or branded on yourself to
show ownership of your master. I guarantee that if the
apolocalypse where to come soon and they were trying to mark me with the
sign of the beast then i would tell the to try and put it over the mark
that shows my masters ownership and make sure they new that I wasn't up
for grabs. If you are going to be a proponent to the articles of your choosing I suggest you take a look at
the other side of the coin. ... let people decide for themselves.
I believe that with Gods grace and the death of My lord Jesus Christ and
new covenant was established and that along with alot of the Old covenant principle I can live my Christian life with pride
and not be ashamed of the mark I placed on my body that showed who my
master is." I just can't figure out
why Christians cannot be satisfied with the mark they have been given by
their King - Baptism. Why do they need another mark?
from Florida writes, "My comments are in regard to Wendy
Shalit's book A Return to Modesty.
A friend of mine referred the book during one of our conversations about
the differences between men and women. I had confided in her,
secretly (mainly because she is my Christian friend that shares my beliefs), that
although I have been raised in a society where women are told to be
independent and get careers, I felt an overwhelming desire to get
married to my boyfriend and stay home to raise our children. I
also believed that men and women are different, which is not something I
can admit to very many people without getting "a look" (I used
to be one of these people.). I feel that men and women have completely different emotional needs that need to be
met, and, although we are taught that it is hard to meet these needs in
one another, they are very basic, and I truthfully believe can be met
Just a little background: Although deep down, I felt regret and
shame sleeping with men I didn't love, I truly felt that there was
something wrong with me if I didn't want this or do it. I also
spoke out for women, supporting the idea that we are just like men, just
as sexual. When deep down, I didn't believe this. But,
again, I felt that not believing this I was just a boring wanna-be housewife. And, many of my friends,
even though I don't think they believe what they're saying, make me feel
that I should be sexual, and getting emotional or wanting to be treated
like lady is either wrong or just not atttainable.
So, I began reading this book after confiding in her these thoughts.
And, I couldn't put it down! I only wish that I had read it five
years ago, and not these past two weeks. I connected with my
"bad self" when I was around twenty, and although I come from
a very supportive and loving family, I wish someone would have stopped
me or helped me explain my emotions. At the time, I felt it was
appropriate to talk about private matters and act casual about sex, to
prove that I was just as strong as a man. And, now I feel stupid for the way I acted.
But, my having sex began because I felt that I owed it to the men I was
with to have sex because I felt bad saying, "No." Then,
it just became the norm, and soon I was having sex with different people
either because I felt I owed it to them, or because I was trying to
prove that I could be disconnected from sex. But, now that I am in
this new relationship, I am finding that women and men are very
different. And, even though I did "experiment," I didn't
feel good about myself in the morning, and I only wish I would have
found this book or a friend, that would have validated these feelings,
this struggle. So, over time, I began to buy this way of living,
even advocating it to others, because it was the norm.
And, although I did have one good Christian friend, she didn't seem to
understand the pressures around me from other friends and society that I
felt very hard to get rid of. I hope to share this book with my
daughter, and I hope she doesn't fall into the popular way of belief.
I hope she is stronger than me and doesn't make the same mistakes I
made. I only hope my support will help her feel strong in being
the individual. Because sadly to say, I do not see more women
being modest. I only see it getting worse. For that fact,
two of my friends went out two weekends ago, and two women were
performing very sexually explicit acts on one another on the dance
floor. And, this is the cool place to go, a celebrity siting!
And, the sad thing is that when all of those people left the club, I bet
a majority of them were not even shocked. And the others that
Well, they probably didn't say anything, because like I've experienced,
in saying those things are gross, I am told I'm just jealous or
insecure. And, for a while I believed that, when I didn't like
when my boyfriend looked at porn. But, now, I know that these
feelings are felt by other women. That I'm not just supposed to be
okay with two women [being inappropriate with] one another, and I'm not
supposed to comfortable with past boyfriends looking at porn. I am just
thankful she wrote this book. So, then my true self can come out,
and I can admit to myself that these feelings I feel are good and
validated. That I'm not wierd, or jealous, or insecure, or alone.
And, even though I still feel a little wierd admitting this in today's
society, I do want to marry a gentleman, have children, (with
God's help) stay home to raise them, and grow old with someone.
And, even though I felt it was my duty as an independent woman to cringe
inside when my sister told people proudly she was a stay-at-home mom, I
hope I will get the opportunity to say the same.
Before I go, I do have one question? In today's society, I feel
that I must work to keep my boyfriend happy and satisfied.
Although he is constantly reassuring me that he loves me; he doesn't
look at porn; and, he doesn't even get into lingerie. However, I
still feel this overwhelming feeling that if I don't stay beautiful or
sexy or witty, I will lose him. Why do I feel this way? Is it wrong to feel threatened
by our overtly sexual society, the one that is always sending messages
of sex? Because it makes me very uncomfortable trying, and very
hard, to have a healthy normal relationship in today's society. Am
I the only one with this inner struggle?
Arthur writes: Please to see you
include one of the great leaders in the modern era namely Margaret
Thatcher. I was proud to work for her in 1984/85 and found her truly
inspirational, anyone requiring information about her feel free to
contact me. firstname.lastname@example.org
Maggie from Farmington, ME writes,
"Wow. Thank you thank you thank you Wendy
"I too went to Williams and, like most college girls (and boys,
from what I know now) I grew more and more cynical as the years went on.
I started to think my 'romantic notions' about true love, honor, family,
etc where completely unreasonable. A large percentage of the U.S.
population these days - girls as well as boys - takes this terribly
depressing attitude which encourages girls to lose their strength by
denying their emotions, and boys their emotions by denying their
strength in favor of a distorted, animalistic, and childish version of
adulthood in which *real* emotions are treated with disdain and people
are expected to live up to a 'modern' notion of equality in which
neither sex gets the love or honor they need. I believe God
created us to be much, much more than that..."
Tony from Caro, MI writes, "I've not
read Wendy Shalit's book, but having read several reviews I am inclined
to think that she is absolutely right in making her case for modesty,
especially modesty as it relates to the feminine. It was Kahlil
Gibran who, in "The Prophet" explained that "modesty was
intended to protect the innocent from the eye of the unclean."
Nowhere is this more true than where women and men are concerned.
I often wonder about this so-called "women's liberation
movement" that espouses explicit clothing while condemning men and
women for their sexual advances. Isn't it funny at the same time
how fathers of daughters fear even more than their wives (because they
know how men think)the impressions their daughters may have on young men
around them. I think,too, that the very low standards in dressing
and grooming afflicting so many young people the world over are
responsible for a lack of development for the appreciation of refinery
in people's lives. If I can dress like a slob, why not act like a
slob, and think sloppily about important formal matters in life.
In short, I think Wendy is right. I just wish more adults could
see the implications of her thoughts regarding the upbringing of their
Someone wrote, "ya'll have a really cool website and
i liked especially the waiting until you are married to kiss when i was
13, i committed to not kiss any guy until i'm at the alter. thanks alot
for this website, God bless ya'll" But
Someone else wrote, "am appalled by the content of your
website. Must everything be centered around god? If one would like to
think so, that is their belief. What I am unable to comprehend is the
sheer ignorance of the articles on this site. How can one base
every little detail on what the scriptures say? Additionally, how can
one believe that a simple kiss between partners before marriage is
wrong? Is one condemned to "burn in the fires of hell" if one
single, simple kiss is exchanged between partners? There is nothing
wrong with intimancy. Perhaps the most upsetting part of this site is
the byast opinions of the articles, as well as the sarcastic comments
made by the authors of this site at the end of comments posted by those
opposed to this site in the guestbook." Sheeeeesssshhhh
- people are so easily offended. But, after all, I'm the one
paying for the bandwidth so why can't I comment as I please?
Grant from Farmington, NM writes, "I must say, the article
is completely irrational and unrealistic. Are you saying that
couples should not kiss prior to marriage simply because a few Bible
verses 'MIGHT' seem to say that? What century are you living in?
No kissing? Thats the most ridiculous thing I've heard of in my
entire life. Do not base your life on the your misinterpreted view
of the Bible and it's teachings." I
suppose there are many interpretations to "It is good for a man not
to touch a woman." (1
Corinthians 7:1) One would think that Paul’s entreaty to “treat
younger women as sisters, with absolute purity”
(1 Timothy 5:2) would settle the case once and for all.
But, then, it IS the 21st century.
Joey writes, "Excellent essay on this [kissing]
topic! I'm not the type that usually reads whole web pages, but
this one I did. I'm seeking Christian guidance in knowing where to
set my physical boundaries with my new girlfriend, and this page has
Eric from Taylors, SC writes, "I am a newly married man,
with a pregnant wife, so I feel that it would be an understatement to
say that I am concerned family matters. Ashamedly, I must admit
that my concern for "family issues" has not always been as
stong as it is today. Yet, the Lord has used His word, godly men and
women, and websites such as this one to grow my passion for the family.
Thank you for the thoughtful articles on this site. Please pray for me
and my family as we leave a legacy for the following generations and as
we influence the society around us."
Jeffrey from West Point writes, "Greetings
from US Military Academy at West Point. I don't know if you folks
are aware of it, but there are quite a few of us homeschoolers who are
cadets and midshipmen here at the U.S. service academies. Keep up
the good work with your kids!"
Stephanie writes, "I absolutely agree with what you said!
We are to be pure in our relations with the opposite sex. That includes
kissing! French kissing someone is considered a handshake in this
country and I think it is disgraceful and deludes people into thinking
that their actions are harmless."
Dustin writes, "I think you take things a bit too far. I
have tattoos and piercing but i still believe that i am a good person. I
have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and do not have sex with her.
But i do kiss her. So you see, i think that judging someone on standards
like these proves to be rather inaccurate and wrong. thanks."
Heather from Dallas, Tx writes: "I
decided four years ago that I would not kiss again until I was married.
I made the decision more as a preventative measure than anything. So
when I found Sarah Faith Schlissel's article about premarital
kissing, I was quite intrigued. After I read the article and gave my
decision more thought, I realized that this was the logic and reasoning
I had been unknowingly searching for. Before I found her article, I had
already told my boyfriend I didn't want to kiss until I was married.
(Needless to say, he wasn't thrilled with the idea, but he told me I was
worth the wait.) After reading her article and talking about it with
him, we both realized just how huge this was. We've talked about it at
length and realize that by waiting, our first kiss, at our wedding, will
be extremely special because we have waited for so long to fully show
our passion for each other. While I know this is not something every
couple can do, I highly encourage others to think about what an impact
this decision can make in your relationship and for those around you. I
know we've got people looking up to us as an example and this is one way
we can be a Christ-like example for them."
Victor from Gauteng, South Africa writes,
"This article is awesome. This is the stuff which would save the
world or those who would give heed. We need more like it. More
importantly, this needs to get to those it should affect and needs
consideration in the right frame of mind. Here is the great challenge,
to break through the mists of darkness that some may see the light. And
for those who read, understand and agree, beware, knowledge and
understanding are not enough. In fact knowledge gained and not actioned
is damnation to the soul. To those on a path toward receiving the full
gospel I say, God speed."
An anonymous writer writes, "2 Sam. 12:14 says, .. by
this deed thou has given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to
blaspheme, .. David was (in part) responsible for the reaction of the
LORD's enemies. So, contrary to your Defense
of Bathsheba article was Bathsheba in the say way (in part)
responsible for David's reaction. We are our brother's keeper. If David
was a peeping tom she would not be guilty. Women are responsible for the
correct use of their beauty. If there is any chance of it offending,
that chance should be averted. A public naked bath is a very obvious
offence waiting to happen. I am very surprised you would attempt to
defend such action. We have laws today that would rightly accuse her of
indecent exposure. I have secluded spots in my yard that I like, but I
do not go there and expose myself. We only do these things in places
where there is absolutely no possibility of anyone seeing anything. That
is the least common sense, is it not?" Everyone
gets so excited about this!! However, it should be noted that the
Hebrew word used at 2 Samuel 11:2 for washing, rachats, doesn't
automatically imply nakedness. Matthew Henry suggest she was
washing "...probably from some ceremonial pollution, according to
the law" She could have been washing her feet for all we
know. But as is the case of human nature, we usually assume the
worse about someone before knowing the facts.
Erwin wrote, I am
creating a fishing web directory, Fishing-Resource.com,
and would like to include your website Fortifyingthefamily.com in it. We
shall put all our efforts into having your link up in less than 24
hours; and if you find our site useful for your visitors, please add a
reciprocal link. Hummmm. We wrote
back, "Thank you for your contact. Would you happen to be a reformed
fishing site? Would you be willing of a reciprocal link, that is,
contingent of course that you are reformed in your
fishing." Still waiting for an answer.
Gerald of Coldspring, TX writes, "I
want to thank you for the great insite and Godly wisdom on kissing
before marriage. If we would only learn that we are beings of flesh
and pandering to the flesh outside of God's design only brings greater
desire and sin. I pray that you continue to hold to this stand in
kissing and do not stray even if the entire world would disagree with
you. God bless"
Naomi writes, "With regard to the
"Sin of Bathsheba" issue, I totally agree with your
assessment. Not only does scripture not support the idea of
nakedness being sin, but the story of David and Bathsheba in II Samuel
11 and 12 does not make any mention of Bathsheba sinning. It's a
shame that a whole doctrine, practically, has been built around this
false premise. We'd better be careful that we're not going around
stating as Biblical that which is not!" It
took over 2 years for someone to come along that agreed with our
position. I'm not sure if that is good or bad. On the other
Dimitra, one of our Roman Church brothers, writes, "The Sin
of Bathsheba," to which a friend referred me as being an excellent
article, was indeed that. I found it edifying, kind, interesting,
and spiritually helpful to live a Godly life and help my daughter to do
so. "In Defense of
Bathsheba," on the other hand, I found to be nitpicking,
hair-splitting, legalistic, and unedifying. For example, drawing a
difference between "iniquity" and "sin." That
author's whole emphasis on who is going to be/not be *prosecuted*
(letter of the Law)is missing the point, as opposed to "Anony's"
clear insight (spirit of the Law)that Bathsheba contributed to David's
sin and how future Bathsheba's might avoid contributing to the fall of
future Davids--a most worthy article. One of the petitions that
Orthodox Christians read every morning when they are praying for
"the whole world" is: For those whom I have offended or
scandalized by my madness (rashness)or inadvertence, and whom I have
turned from the way of salvation and led into evil and harmful
deeds. By Thy divine providence restore them again to the way of
salvation." Thus might Bathsheba have prayed. Only
after we acknowledge our own part in causing others to sin and pray for
those whom we have caused to sin, do we in turn pray for those who have
likewise offended us: "Save, O Lord, and have mercy on those who
hate and offend me, and do me harm, and let them not perish through me,
a sinner." Let us not forget, it was not: who sinned,
David OR Bathsheba; rather, the one's negligence and the other's lust
sinned *together.* By dressing modestly (and contrary to the
"Defense," women *do* know how long a "modest" skirt
is) women are fulfilling the exhortation of St. Paul: "Bear ye one
another's burdens." At the Dread Judgment of Christ, neither men
nor women will be able to say, "But it wasn't my fault." ...
the two sinning together. Hummmm......... thus one can sense
the influence of unspoken presuppositions on ethical decisions.
Thankfully, at the Dread Judgment of Christ, neither men nor women will
be unjustly accused.
Another Naomi writes, "My fiance and myself
couldn't agree with you and your kissing
article more! When we first met we tried to stave off kissing
because we knew where it could lead. However it eventually got the
better of us. A few months after we got engaged I told him that I
didn't think we should "french kiss" any more - becuase it was
the passionate kissing that initiated our downfalls. We desire
each other no less, but by not passionately kissing we are able to let
God stay in the picture and not walk down the road of destruction.
It is difficult and we look forward to our wedding day, our kiss at the
alter and being married!, but how sweet it will be with God's
forgiveness and His Grace to make us pure again. Not a few weeks
after our new "no 'french kissing' rule" I ran across a
printed copy of this article and asked him when he had gotten it and he
said he had printed it off a few days after we had met and were not
kissing yet. I thought it interesting how without ever reading
your article, God had convited me/us on the same issues. Thank you
for your insight and thank you God for this confirmation."
Kristy writes, "what is wrong with you?? what i dont
understand is why most christians (i dont like to stereotype) try to
force thier ideas and morals on others. i was raised in a catholic
family, forced to go to church, sent to catholic schools, ect...
and now, because of that i hate anything that has to do with religion.
why cant you people just keep to yourself and let us be? you
always have to tell other people what they're doing wrong and that
"you're going to hell because you dont follow our beliefs"
i wish i could shine a light on you and show you how stupid you are.
you dont need religion to have faith. you dont have to go to
church and sit through the same b--ls--t week after week to get into
"heaven". you dont have to go and tell some priest what
you did wrong in order to have god forgive you. where do you
pepole come up with this s--t? you say that we should treat each
others as equals, yet you look down on those that arent christian.
you people are so full of yourselves. it's because of people like
you that i hate anything that has to do with "god" so my
advice to you is to keep your f-----g mouth shut and let the rest of us
have our own beliefs and values. all you're doing is p-----g
people off. you people are so closed minded and nieve. i
will laugh when the day comes that you realize that there is no god and
you wasted your life and time praying to nothing. another thing.
why is it that your church is always in need of money? so you can
get another gold staue of jesus or mary? or is it because the
priests mercedes needs a tune up? you are too busy sitting in your
church brainwashing people and collecting thier money instead of being
out in the community helping people. you need to get a grip on
reality. And to think that I've spent
years trying to figure out where I went wrong and here Kristy sums it up
in one Pauline-like paragraph. On the other hand, we could
use a bigger house.
Jeff asserts a deeper purpose of the law
that may transcend the particular ordinances. Read our discussion HERE.
Jonathan from Ireland doesn't agree with
the use of Old Testament law to prohibit tattoing. Read our
Jon is a Christian and a member of a rock
band in the UK and inquired about the appropriateness of Christians
getting tattoos. Read our discussion HERE.
Dadiceman, the son of a conservative Christian pastor, was ill at ease by our
responses to people inquiring about Christians and tattoos. Read
his comments and our response HERE.
Bob from Newton, Iowa writes, "I have been listening to your series
on Home and Family workshop and have really enjoyed it. we have just
returned from the mission field with the Christian and Missionary
Alliance. I am a mechanic/maintenance man and my wife is a teacher who
is now homeschooling our 4 kids. We served in Gabon Africa at a
hospital in the rainforest for 5 years where I worked and taught
Now we are trying to figure out what to do from here. WE feel a need to
stay here for now and am trying to figure out which skill to hone into a
business. Thanks so much for your help through your
Andrew writes, "Your [kissing]
article is insightful and compelling. I have to say your logic appears intact and that
you are probably correct; God would prefer that we kiss only our spouse.
Hopefully you will convince more than just me since I'm married."
Marc from Miami, Fl writes: "Well i totally
agree with your argument about christians kissing. I am a christian and
i have been contemplating kissing my girlfriend but deep in my heart i
felt that i would i have feel dirty and guilty after wards. And i was
one of the ones who was saying show me where the bible condemns it but
the other biblical insights and examples shed alot of clarity to my
mind. so now i made a decision that i will wait until were married but i
feel like in my heart i had already decided to kiss now the temptation
will be greater than before especially when i pop kiss her.tell me what
i should do and how i can go about dealing with this."
Jane from Baker, West Virginia writes:
"Thank you for your [kissing]
article. I have been praying and seeking counsel on this topic
for awhile now. I agree with each of your points and thank God for
them. At age 21, it is difficult to stay in the Spirit and
demonstrate the fruits that He gives us. While all the Biblical
passages in the world can instruct me the key issues that I find are #1
If I kiss my husband before we are consecrated in marriage then if it
turns out he is not the one set apart for me then I have kissed another
woman's husband. This is not acceptable because I really don't
want another woman kissing my husband. (This principle was really
easy until I have found the man I am in a courtship with for a possible
marriage.) This second principle is now what is helping me to
stick to my vow of purity. #2 As older people we are to be
an example for the younger kids and teenagers wrestling with similiar
drives and emotions. Timothy tells us not to let anyone look down
on us because we are young but to set an example for those in purity...
It is imperative that our relationship be pleasing to God. Like
many things I have found in this awesome journey, it is not easy but the
rewards are great. Thank you for your article. I pray that
others will find it helpful In HIS awesome love."
writes: "I am not going to obey god's law to hell with god!!!
he isn't my creator, and i don't answer to anyone but ME!!!"
Keijo from Sweden writes: "i am 54 year and i will
to learn about the lord allways. He is so much to tell to me. Every day
he is my teacher. I am so happy what i will learn. these is many whom he
will learn same thinks of living life . praise the lord and be blesset
in your school."
Michael from Haslit Michigan writes: "I would like to
tell you how much I have enjoyed and been encouraged by your web site.
I am the father of five children ages 2-10. We are new to the
reformed faith, particularly the idea of covenant theology. I am
very impressed how your daughter Lindsey is able to articulate the
practical applications of covenant theology so well. I would be
very curious to know what resources you have used to train your children
to have such a solid Christian worldview and to be able to wield it so
ably! I hope this has been somwhat coherent! I am a
physician and have not had a good measure of sleep!" The
last person we want to see losing sleep is our physician!
Tonya from Indiana writes, "What refresing truths are
offered here on these pages. I can't say enough how wonderful it
is that you take the time to respond to people about their viewpoints of
the ideas you profess. So many "Christians" hate the
sinner, but you love the sinner and hate the sin. I will be back
and let others know of this site. I wish you were my neighbor that
we could uplift and exhort each other."
Derek writes: "I could not agree with you more. I
have often wondered how we ever got to the point of saying as long as we
don't go "all the way" it will be acceptable. I believe
as Chrisitans that we should turn and flee from sin not see how close we
can get to it all while using the excuse of "i don't see it as a
sin". Keep up the good work."
John from DeKalb Texas writes: "Hello,Mr. Hurd
I just read your article " a
kiss is just a kiss?". I thought it was really good.I'm going
to read some more articles later.I really enjoy your family's website."
Melody - "I love this site! Every time I visit, I glean a
little more wisdom. "
Tonya from Ft. Wayne, Indiana writes, "What refresing
truths are offered here on these pages. I can't say enough how
wonderful it is that you take the time to respond to people about their
viewpoints of the ideas you profess. So many
"Christians" hate the sinner, but you love the sinner and hate
the sin. I will be back and let others know of this site. I
wish you were my neighbor that we could uplift and exhort each other."
Mark from London
is an Independent Evangelical who may or may not wear an ear ring when
passing out Christian tracts. See my response.
Rebekah from Tekonsha Michigan writes, "I thnk this is a
great website and really appriciate your stand on the whole kissing
dating scene. Keep up the good work and stand firm on your beliefs. God
will richly bless you and your family."
Nick writes, "I particularly do not like this view on
tattoos and body mod. I am Christian that speaks based on
experience on body piercing. I don't understand
how one can judge another based on their tattoos or piercings.
Before I got pierced, I prayed about what to do. I know God loves
me no matter what I do. I am a sinner as we all are. I
beleive that tattoos and body mod is between the one getting modified
and God. No one else has any say so. God Bless." I
didn't make this up!! Spoken
like a true post-modern, existentialist American.
Michael from Cuyahoga Falls Ohio is a
senior in high school and had an interesting class discussion on
kissing. Go there.
Anonymous - Kissing is in no way bad. It is no
sexual act and even if it was ... sexual activity, if you prevent
yourself from becoming infected with sexual deseases, is absolutely not
dangerous. In fact, kissing and - even more - sex produces hormones that
make you feel well and prevent pain (physical pain). The only thing you
waste is time....but there is no way to produce those hormones more
effective...so why forbidding it? Because the Bible says so? Do you have
any reasonable arguments against sexual activities and kissing other
than illnesses (which can be prevented easily) and this more than 3000
years old book? I hope so...or your argumentation is quite weak. As
if his argument is less than 3000 years old and, therefore, somehow legitimate?
Kimberly from Illinois writes, "thank you so much for
standing up on this [kissing] topic! i've vowed to not kiss another guy
until my wedding day. i regret doing this very much in the past. i don't
get alot of possitive feedback on my decision and it is just really nice
to hear somebody with similar views. thanks!"
Joshua from Kansas asked about tattooing Christian phrases.
Read our discussion HERE.
Gabriel writes, "Only today did Idiscover yor website so
haven't had lots of time to read all that you've written, but I look
forward to spending time here later. Like when the kids are in
bed!! My heart burden is for the local churches and the separation
of families. Nowhere in our area is there a family oriented
church. Our church where we are active members has a wonderful,
Godly pastor and we are all learning and growing but there are still
concerns regarding the Christian Education practices."
Kimberly of Peoria Illinois writes, "thank you so much for
standing up on this topic! i've vowed to not kiss another guy until my
wedding day. i regret doing this very much in the past. i don't get alot
of possitive feedback on my decision and it is just really nice to hear
somebody with similar views. thanks!"
Mr. Charles Spillar of Missouri wrote a great
letter in response to the Next
Generation article about his work within his family. Read his
Tametra from East Palo Alto California
writes: i think this is a good website, and i juss wonderin y do ppl do
abortions. We wonder, too.
Ashley from Florida - You're all so foolish. I've said enough. Just have fun
being sheep. Well, thank you Ashley.....you've been most helpful.
Steven writes about pre-marital kissing, "I
appreciate and respect the comments you have made about pre-marital kissing.
Your argument is convincing to a point, but you are yet to approach kissing as
an issue itself. You say kissing outside of marriage is wrong because of
people's "motives" or "intentions" or because it causes one
to lust, but not because of the act itself. Now I agree with you
completely on this, it is more often than not that people kiss because of
emotional or physical stimulation, but it is true that people do many other
things, besides kissing, that causes this physical and emotional stimulation.
These particular things include watching a significant other in a sporting event
or some sort of performance, hugging, talking, and even giving and receiving
gifts. The point of this is to say that the act of kissing is not what is
wrong, but the place of the person's heart and mind is wrong. If an act is
selfish it is wrong in any circumstance, whether it be kissing or giving a gift
or talking. Thus kissing can be done in an unselfish manner, just as much
as talking or giving a gift can be unselfish. Love is the willing
(conscious) decision, it is a choice not a wishy-washy feeling, to extend
oneself for the goodness and spiritual growth of another. Kissing is a
form of love which allows one to extend oneself beyond oneself for the good of
another. A kiss is a gentle touch of affection which allows two people in
effect to complement each other. Therefore kissing is something that one
should be able to do with someone he or she loves. It does not necesarrily
have to be your husband or wife (I mean this in time being relative. If you are
married, yes you should only be kissing your spouse). I mean this for
people who are not married. They should be able to kiss if they are not
married, as long as thier heads are in the right places. Sex on the other
hand is something sacred and beautiful and a gift that should be saved for that
particular person one will be spending the rest of one's life with in marriage.
I ask that you not be so against kissing, but be against people's desires and
lusts in every situation. A kiss is a wonderful thing that can be and
should be intended for good things. Love never fails. The truth is
if people lived by these rules and ideas, there would be a whole lot less people
kissing, but then there would be a whole lot less people talking also."
Very well, see my article, A
Kiss Is Just A Kiss?
Helen from Australia
wrote in about our Church
and Family article and then had some interesting questions about election
and free will. Read our discussion HERE.
David from California writes, "Just wanted to say I enjoyed browsing
through some of your articles and website. It sounds like we are pretty much on
the same page. I am 24, and I was homeschooled from 5th grade to the end! I have
also done the non-traditional college: distance learning. I believe it is a
great way to do things overall. Anyways, I thought your article on Courtship was
great. I have thought a lot about Courtship over the years, because that is what
all homeschoolers seem to talk about! "Courtship is the way." However,
I have tried to figure out just what is the "right" way to prepare for
marriage. I want to honor and glorify my Great God in everything I do, so I felt
I had to in marriage too! I have been troubled with the idea of courtship
because of the hurt that can take place in the one young lady says no or it
doesn't work out...when you are "committed" to getting married! I
experienced that once when I talked to a father about courting His daughter. He
(and his wife) gave me his permission, but we thought it would be best if he was
to talk to her about it first. He did...and she said she was not interested in
courting anyone while she was in school or till she was 22 years old. She was
almost 22 and attending a local Christian college for nursing. I took that as a
no. I thought maybe there was hope because she really didn't say "NO,"
but...It really ended up being a no. It was probably a month or two later she
had an "unofficial" boyfriend! It was a close friend of my family for
many years. The whole thing was rather difficult to get over and to do in the
first place. Even though they asked her and all that...I thought she got scared
by the word "courtship." I really do think courtship has its problems.
Betrothal seems quite better after thinking about it. I think it is a Biblical
principle as well. I do have some questions on how all that works. The article
mentioned that a couple gets to know each other in groups, family gatherings,
church etc. However, were they supposed to both be interested in each other
first? or Is the guy interested in the and just
hang'n around? I guess I am unclear how all that "works." When the guy
talks to the dad and he thinks it is a good idea but says to wait for some time,
does that mean to just sit and wait? What does a guy do when he sees a Godly
young woman who he thinks might desire to marry? Is he supposed to win her heart
in a way to see if she responds at all? What is the guy wants to do the
betrothal way and the only is familiar with
courtship? Anyways, these are just questions that came to my mind. Thank you
once again for ministering to me and many others. May the Lord richly bless you
all! Blessing in King Jesus,"
Leanna from Ontario writes, "Well I've been struggling with this
subject for a while now, I'm dating this guy that hasn't kissed me and I was really feeling down about
it. He told me he didn't want us to open any doors that shouldn't me open before
marrage and I respected him for what he believed but I also wanted a kiss. I've
never been kissed before and really wanted to have that experience with someone
I love. But now after reading this artical it's gave me a better view and some
good scriptures to fall apon. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I needed to
hear why I should wait untill after marrage to recieve my first kiss. Only I
can't help but be afraid that my first kiss will be at the ulter (u may kiss the
bride) and pictures and eyes watching. How embarassing but it'll be worth it I'm
sure! Thank you and God Bless you!"
Diane from New York writes, "We have been homeschooling for 2 years
now, and the Lord has been calling us into a greater accountability. We
have been studying about authority and the roles and responsibilites the Lord
has given us as parents. As a result, we have stopped sending our children
to Sunday school, and my husband is meeting with our pastor and elders regarding
our beliefs and concerns. Our church is a relatively new plant and is in
the process of being established on its own. We are prayerfully
considering what the Lord's will is for our family in regard to church and other
areas in our family life. It was very helpful to stumble upon your web
site. Thank you for your articles and your Godly insight.If you have any
suggestions for us, we would be happy to receive them."
Carmen Unruh from Newton KS writes: What a
blessing this website is!!! I just visited for the first time and came away
refreshed and ready to roll! :-)
Madeleine - we received you end of the year
letter and i can't begin to tell you what a moment of refreshment it
was. it has been a pleasure and a blessing to have "met" you
though only in print. may our Redeemer bless you as you bless others
with your insight. thanks for all your efforts!
Mike -Your article on body modification is
utterly rediculous. Your stands do not make sense and you have no scripture
(used in context) to back up your stands. Also It is either wrong or right to
pierce(or damage your temple) it doesnt make it right to scar yourself if you
are a woman. That is just another fad that has worked its way in and is accepted
by those like yourself!!! I would like you to contact me by e-mail so i can open
your eyes to these things. although like most Christians you probably wont have
the nerve to or are to thick headed to see otherwise. And dont try to tell
people the meanings behind these mods when you have never experianced this YOURSELF!"
Gee..... I didn't mean to make him mad. Read
Nev - I read thru some of
the articles on ur website and i found them to be good. Also agreed with
them and ur arguments. I've got 1 qn that i'm curious abt: going by ur
premise of dis-allowing anything pre-maritally that one would not want
one's spouse to do in a marriage, what about holding hands (like say while
walking/shopping) in courtship? On the one hand, holding hands would be quite ok
between sisters, but on the other hand, i don't think a husband would approve of
his wife holding hands with another man. What's your input on this? Do let
Thanx! Read my Response
Andre - Can
you please explain to me why kissing and especially passionately kissing
with another person before marriage is not in our best interest? What
does God say about it and why does he not want us to do it? Read my
Thomas - "it is terrible"
Nichole - I read your comments at your home page regarding the
state of our nation and your opinions about instilling the word of God in the
hearts and minds of our children. It is always encouraging to myself and my
husband to know there are others out there that share our ideas. God bless you
and your family.
didn't like anything about child training or the roles of father and
mother on the web site. Read my Response
Robinson Family - We enjoyed reading your families web page! We are also
raising our children to serve the LORD so far we have five. We homeschool and my
wife is their main school teacher, although I oversee all goings on. The LORD has blessed you with some insight on a lot of issues for today.
Continue running the race! You are an encouragement to others!
Shirley - Midland, TX - What a wonderful site which I found on Google.com
searching for Margaret Thatcher's latest speech. I am a Believer and I am a
registered member of Free Republic..freerepublic.com., a grassroots conservative
website (around 50,000) becoming very active in the same areas of conern for our
country shared by your family. Many of the members (many not) are born again
Christians and homeschoolers who love this country and know the danger it is in.
of California - You're website is a real blessing. Thank you.
- New Jersey - Hello! I appreciate your well written and
thoughtful articles. Your article in the Homeschool Digest I read and nearly
highlighted it entirely as there are so many good points!
- New Jersey -
Thanks for all your insight. I really enjoy your
articles in The Homeschool Digest. It is getting increasingly harder for us to
capture our children's hearts anymore. We continue to pray and trust our Lord
for their walk. Your articles are solid and hopeful. Thanks!
& Heather - New Mexico - Many thanks for such a great website with valuable
information for the whole family. Also, many thanks for the Christmas
letter. Our family enjoyed the one we received last year, and this year
was even better. We feel like we know you and enjoy hearing about the
kids progress. Please keep us on your mailing list.
Vicki - Joshua, TX - Thanks for the input. It is
so true. Our families are falling apart, because they are seeking after
things of this world and not things of God. As my daughter Joy, said,
she caught more at home than she was taught. So parents must wake up and
see that more is caught than taught. They are watching our every move.
Then when your children are grown, the will have values to turn this
- Hayward, CA -
Great job on your website! I very much appreciate your
distinctively covenantal outlook and look forward to spending more time
on this site. I decided to check out the site because somehow I got on
your mailing list and received a letter today updating me on your
family's status. I enjoyed the letter and was convicted by your
steadfastness in raising such a godly household. As a single man, I hope
and aim to someday cultivate a family like the Hurd's in its faithful
and diligent service to our exalted Lord Jesus. Continue to Walk
resolutely in Him in whom all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are
& Greg - New Mexico - YOUR YEARLY LETTER IS AN ENCOURAGEMENT TO US, AS WE ARE
EXPECTING OUR SIXTH CHILD IN JUNE! TEN YEARS AGO WE NEVER SAW OURSELVES
AS A COUPLE THAT WOULD HAVE AS MANY CHILDREN AS WE DO. WE THOUGHT IT
CRAZY TO HAVE 5 OR 6 KIDS (OR, NEED I SAY IT, 10? BUT MY HUSBAND REMINDS
ME WE ARE OVER HALF-WAY THERE...), AND HAVE FOUND OURSELVES WISHING FOR
A FAMILY "AHEAD" OF US IN THE PROCESS OF DILIGENTLY TRYING TO
RAISE THEM TO HONOR AND GLORIFY GOD BOTH NOW AND WITH THEIR FUTURES.
WELL, GUESS WHO GOD PLACED AS A FAMILY "AHEAD" OF US?? AND
JUST IN THE NICK OF TIME AS WE WERE WONDERING WHAT KIND OF VEHICLE WOULD
ACCOMODATE OUR FAMILY IF A NUMBER SEVEN COMES ALONG! THANKS FOR
INCLUDING US ON YOUR MAILING LIST!
The Narmours from Mountainburg, AR - These articles are great!
Really get down to the meat of the issues. Thanks for all the hard work!
Maggie - Wow! There is a lot here! It is going to take more than
one visit to take it all in.
I have enjoyed your website. I find your
articles well researched and thought out. Keep up the good work.
This was a great site for homwork info
Paul - South Carolina - "Great site!! We are so glad when God sends things like this to
encourage us about homeschool. Our biggest concern is glorifying the Lord
in our homeschooling." -
is disturbed about the tattoo article. Read my Response
doesn't agree with the courtship and betrothal issues. Read my
Mary - "I was looking for some Christian information on the family and came across
this website. It is very good. I will be coming back to look at the other articles."
Bracey from Brooklyn - The issues discussed, here in this website, are
relevant and demand the attention of believers everywhere. Everyone interested in the
future of their family and our nation should navigate through this website.
I commend you for your labors on this website. As a husband and father of three I am
deeply encouraged by the goal, direction and perspective of this site. May the God of the
covenant bless you abundantly.
"love your site---keep up the good work." -jesus freaks motorcycle ministry
thinks the web site is full of c--p. Read my Response
"Great stuff. I encourage you to keep this website functioning and
continue to add to
the biblical truths." - Daniel, Illinois
shavron from Johannesburg, South Africa says, "I AM PLEASED TO SEE THAT THINGS ARE
BEING DO[ne to] EDUCATE PEOPLE ABOUT GOD. WELL DONE FOR CREATING THIS WEBSITE. I WOULD
APPRECIATE IT IF YOU CAN INFORM ME OF ANY WEBSITE THAT DEALS SPESIFICALY ON HOW GOVERNMENT
SHOULD BE RUN ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK."
Jamie believes the tattoo article is belittling
people with tattoos.
This commentor spent a lot of time and
effort making their case for abortion. Boy!! Talk about putting words in your
mouth!! I wish they had left an address for me to respond. But alas. How would YOU
answer their complaint?
Melanie - I love the page! I cannot BELIEVE some of the comments!
Miss Pro-death needs to seek the other alternative....ADOPTION!!! Now if anyone
reads this and can answer my question, I'll appreciate it! My mother in law is very
hateful and has no use for me or my ideas. I am homeschooling my now 3 year old son, like
it or lump it, But she is getting to my husband....who is noncommitted and not
strong.....and now her idea that our son needs competition in life is getting to him!
Competition is what cause Dylan Klebold to kill his peers! My son will have enough
intelligence competition.....Geography bees, Bible bees....whatever home school kids can
get, he'll have! HELP!!
asserts that since Jesus was silent about tattoos then it must be OK. Read my